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 You have to communicate. As a matter of fact, you are REQUIRED to communicate by court ordered instructions involving custody such as, who are the children’s teachers and doctors, and informing them of sicknesses or athletic events, etc. Using Ex-spouse Solutions (ESS) is a very effective way for you to communicate so there is NO question for a judge or most importantly YOUR CHILDREN; that you are communicating in the most respectable and positive manner allowed. Like it or not, marriage and families were not designed for divorce. God’s plan is for a marriage to be forever and for the man and woman to produce AND raise their offspring TOGETHER. There is no way you can divorce the mother or father of your children and expect your children to not experience some amount of negative development from it. It can be overcome though. An enormous amount of what they are forced to experience is truly up to you. You may not have control during visitation but, it is essential that you use every opportunity to build them up and make their time with you… about you, them, teaching them about God and the right way to treat people. It’s about setting the example they need you to set. And although it may pain you to do so; it may even mean “turning the other cheek” where your EX is concerned.
 You know our motto “Right or wrong…it’s right.” I hate to think of all the broken families and I truly wish that everyone could communicate and treat each other as they should but, if they HAVE to use a service to communicate during an especially volatile time to prevent damage; so be it.
We prefer that you explore ALL available resources BEFORE using our service or if not, consider only using ESS for a temporary period of time until you can communicate better with each other. Inevitably, there will be times in your children’s lives such as marriages, births and deaths that will put you in the presence of the ex-spouse and at those times it is very important to ALL involved that you are in control of your emotions and maybe even on speaking terms with the EX. This really is important because if hatred and non-communication carries on unchecked; one day you will wake-up and realize you weren’t a good example to your children, and now, your grandchildren.
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